28 Lessons in 28 Years.

Hi friends!

Dancing for Donuts | 28 Lessons in 28 Years.

So tomorrow is my birthday and I wanted to share some of the wisdom I’ve learned in the past 28 years of my life. I jotted these lessons down partly for me (because practicing gratitude instantly makes me feel a bit better when I’m not feeling myself) and partly for you in hopes that maybe you’ll learn something, too!

1. You’re never going to be this young or free ever again so you might as well do some crazy sh*t. Heck, why not move across the country to a city where you know maybe just one person and follow your freakin’ dreams 😉

2. Moving far away may make relationships harder, but the ones who are worth it will reciprocate the effort. It’s a two way street, y’all.

3. It really does get better. Not everyday is going to be rainbows and unicorns, but know when to wallow and when to rise up. The lows make the highs even better 🙂

4. The best investment you can make is in yourself. Attend the school/conference/event that will teach you more about what you’re passionate about and if you need to take a loan out, you’ll make it work and pay it back. Knowledge isn’t free!

5. The money will come. Sometimes (most of the time) you have to pay your dues. Take these moments as learning experiences and don’t worry about the paycheck yet. That being said, no when to say enough is enough. You have value and deserve to be paid for your contributions and hard work.

6. You’ll never regret a trip you took. Travel while you can, and while you have minimal responsibilities (aka no kids!).

7.. Family is #1. Hands down, always. And if you’re not close with yours, find friends that become your family instead.

8. There’s nothing better than having good friends and a support system in life so treat relationships like they’re solid gold.

9. That being said, say goodbye to relationships that don’t serve you, lift you up, or make you smile. Not every moment can be perfect, but the highs should by far outweigh the lows.

10. Kindness. Is. Everything. I promise that nothing will get you farther in life than being a kind person.

11. Do favors. People notice and karma exists.

12. Others may be lucky, but working hard for what you want is far more important in the long run when it comes to gratitude and character.

13. Everything happens for a reason (and I so, so strongly believe that!). The job you didn’t get, the breakup you had to endure, the hardships. They teach you things so keep an eye out for the lesson and remember it in the future.

14. Treat your body like the friggin’ temple it is. Stretch, move, fuel it with goodness and love it for all it’s capable of.

15. Save when you can. You’ll be glad when you have money for a “rainy day.”

16. Women are so capable of becoming anything they want to be. Be independent, be strong and be a role model. Girls need more of those in this world (and I’m thankful I had mine!)

17. Your home should be your oasis, the place you come home to after a long and crazy day and instantly makes you feel comfortable.

18. The small things are often the big things. Don’t take small moments for granted.

19. Celebrate every single victory, no matter how small. You are accomplishing things and growing every single day and nothing is more motivating than stopping to recognize that.

20. You and your needs come first every single time. Give yourself time to rest and learn when to say no (and when to say yes!).

21. Treat yourself! What’s the point of living if you can’t indulge in the things you love?

22. If it doesn’t make you happy then let it go – the job, the boyfriend, the whatever-it-is that’s holding you back. You deserve happiness and life’s too short to hold on to things that make you miserable or bring you down.

23. Don’t wait for things to come to you. Work hard, manifest what you want in life, and ask for it when you can.

24. Stop talking sh*t about people. I’m so guilty of this I’ll be honest, but when I think about it, what’s the point?! It doesn’t help me in anyway, or them. If people want to be crappy, that’s their prerogative. Avoid them at all costs, but don’t waste your breath or brain capacity thinking about them.

25. Confidence will get you far. It probably won’t come instantly, and it’s definitely easier said than done, but find the things you love about yourself and focus on those. People will instantly be drawn to you and you’ll find yourself rocking interviews, dates, friendships, and being happier overall.

26. Don’t let people pressure you into doing, saying or thinking anything you don’t want to. If they’re going to judge you for not drinking, smoking, going somewhere, or doing something, it’s their problem not yours.

27. You have to have to HAVE to follow your dreams and take whatever path you think it is that you’re meant to take. If life doesn’t turn out how you planned so be it, you’ll pivot and find another path, but if you don’t try you’ll never know.

28. Don’t forget to laugh. Having a sense of humor (& humility) makes the tough stuff so much easier to handle and life a bit easier to get through 🙂

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xo Jordan

The Best Advice My Dad Has Given Me (So Far)…

First of all, Happy Father’s Day to all the wonderful dad’s out there!!! 🙂

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And of course I want to give an extra special Father’s Day shout out to MY dad, the wisest and most incredible man I know. I was lucky enough to be on the east coast for Mother’s Day this year, but I so wish I could be there to celebrate with my family again today!!

Growing up, I was so fortunate to have two ridiculously supportive and encouraging parents (sometimes I can’t even believe how lucky I am). And over the years, my dad has given me so, so much advice that has absolutely helped me get to the place and state of mind I am in today. I want to share and write them down, even just for myself so I can remember them always, in hopes that we can all benefit from his wise words!

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1. Don’t forget to have fun. – Want to know who actually encouraged me to go on Spring Break in college and party with my friends? My DAD. And who moved me into a frat house 6 years ago when I first got to LA and had no idea what I was doing or where I wanted to be? Yep, that was my dad. And what about when it’s Friday night and I’ve been invited to a party, but kind of just want to stay home and save money? My dad will tell me to go out, see my friends, and enjoy. Just enjoy life as much as I possibly can. And though it seems counterintuitive for my dad to have to tell me to have fun, I totally need the reminder sometimes 🙂

2. Quality first, then price. – Always a bargain hunter, my dad is constantly doing his research before making a purchase, and he’s taught me to do the same. In all honesty, both of my parents are that way and I attribute my frugality to their example! Just the other day, I was searching for flights to go home for a visit and went with United (my main rewards points program) for one leg, but American for the other since it was so much cheaper. No matter how thrifty I am though, I absolutely refuse to fly Spirit or Frontier not matter how cheap! I know this might be kind of a silly example, but it’s the truth. You can only sacrifice quality so much to save a buck before it’s just not worth the struggle or consequence!

3. If you’re doing all the right things and trying your hardest, that’s all you can do. – Now this one might sound more pessimistic written down than it does when he’s actually saying it out loud in his wise-dad voice, but essentially, if you’re doing the best you can, you kind of have to just leave the rest in the universe’s hands. There’s no point worrying about something you can’t control the outcome of (like after a audition, job interview, or test) and if you tried your hardest, that’s the best thing you could’ve done! Whenever I call my dad freaking out, he usually says this to me and my perspective changes almost instantly. After years of having to repeat it, I’m thankful that he did because it took about 27 years for it to sink in as the truth 🙂

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4. Don’t run yourself down. – This one is quite possibly the most valuable piece of advice I’ve ever been given. As someone who (oddly enough) enjoys packing my schedule to the absolute brim, I for sure need to be reminded of this on the reg. Self care might be all trendy now, but my dad was on top of that trend yearsssss ago! Though he always encourages me to work hard and play hard (y’know, within reason!), he also knows how important it is to rest when you need it.

5. You have to spend money to make money. – Ok this one might actually be my favorite through (saved the best for last)! During my past 6 years in LA, particularly while I was dancing professionally and working about 8 part-time jobs to make ends meet on top of going to business school, I felt like I couldn’t ease up on the purse strings at all whatsoever. But if you’ve ever heard anyone say, “the best investment you can make is in yourself,” believe them. My dad has been reminding me for as long as I can remember that you’re not going to make anything back if you’re not willing to spend money on the things you need to get there. His voice saying “Buy the extra headshots,” “Take the dance class,” “Drive the 2 hours to the audition,” and “Get your Master’s” will forever play on in my head. Sometimes you just have to take the plunge and make the investment if you want to make the return. Thanks for keeping me business-minded, dad 🙂

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Well, if you read through all of that I give you credit, but I also hope you really did since I know anyone could use this advice! Hope everyone is having a wonderful weekend!

xo jordan