5 Things I Learned at 28

Well, today I turn 29 years old and y’know what? I kind of really love being almost 30, and I never ever thought I would say that.

Dancing for Donuts | 5 Things I Learned at 28

This year has been a freakin’ WHIRLWIND. I moved into a new apartment with my boyfriend, switched jobs (twice…😅), got into a minor but very expensive car accident, broke my elbow, and started getting serious with my blog/Instagram. It’s been a year of ups and downs, exciting and new things, realizing what I do and don’t want to do with my life for the rest of time, and learning about myself. I have some maaaajor goals to hit by the time I’m 30, so knowing I have one year to get there is giving me the biggest, most exciting push EVER. I’m so ready to work, to accomplish, to grow, to change, and to make moves.

That being said, this year has been an incredible stepping stone on my way there, and I wanted to share some of the most important things I learned this year. I know most of them are particular to me and my life, but maybe there a few tidbits in there that you can relate to, also😊

Dancing for Donuts | 5 Things I Learned at 28

1. If you’re unhappy, make a change. As I mentioned earlier, I did switch jobs twice this year. Am I proud of that? No, not really, but what I AM proud of is the fact that I was able to recognize that a certain situation wasn’t allowing me to thrive, and then take action to remedy that situation. I learned so much from where I’ve come from (and met some seriously incredible people!!! I always fall in love with my coworkers, honestly…), and I don’t think I would have found the role I’m now in without those changes happening at those moments.

2. Save for a very, very rainy day. So in a matter of 2 months, I had to spend about $2,000 between my car (this dude straight up ran a stop sign and blamed it on me…thanks bro!) and my injury. I admittedly cried when I saw all the bills, but it wasn’t so much because I didn’t have the money, just because there were soooo many other things I wanted to be doing with my $2,000, y’know? That being said, I DID have the money because I’m pretty good at saving (hence why I’m always on a budget over here), and I’m so freakin’ glad I did because if I didn’t have savings I’m not quite sure what I would’ve done.

3. But don’t stress out or freak out when things don’t go as planned. Okay you know that $2,000 I spent in less than 60 days? I actually got some of it back after the car insurance company was able to sue the other driver (s/o to State Farm!) and the hospital made a mistake. I knowwww I am the MOST lucky person ever, but I swear I never counted on getting anything back at all. If I had, I wouldn’t have spent all that time crying and stressing out over money. I think regardless, the lesson here is that sh*t happens and then it works itself out. Even if I hadn’t gotten any of that money back, what was done was done and once I spent the money it was gone and over with. We experience things, we learn, we move on.

4. Meet people. All the people. This one does seem a little unusual for me to be writing – I’m an introvert like 90% of the time, I didn’t go to a single networking event in business school, and I still have the same best friends I did in middle school. But, I can’t even begin to tell you how much joy I’ve gotten from meeting people this year. And don’t laugh, but most of them I found on Instagram…yep, the freakin’ internet. I’ve also been saying yes to as many events as possible, and facing my awkwardness head on, to introduce myself to people at all of them. You know why? Because as I get older I realize 1) how important it is to surround yourself with solid people that understand you, 2) that networking really IS insanely important for your career, and 3) meeting other women in the community you’re in (or men! whatever, honestly) is insanely fulfilling and inspiring. I love helping others and the help I personally have received is immense. I am so grateful.

5. If you don’t have the time or money to go far away for a vacation, take time to explore someplace nearby or even in your own city. I don’t know about you, but I find myself getting upset when I realize I don’t have the vacation days (or funds) to take an actual vacation and all I want is to escape LA. This year was also the first one in a couple where my boyfriend and I couldn’t just go all over the place on a whim (like we did in business school or when I worked remotely every Friday), so it felt slightly different. That being said, I think we’ve had some pretty fun days doing new things around LA, or even venturing out for quick day or overnight trips to Santa Barbara, San Diego (I’m there now!) or Topanga Canyon. Not everything has to be a big event to make it feel special, break up the week, or help re-set the soul.

Dancing for Donuts | 5 Things I Learned at 28

If this ^ doesn’t make you chuckle inside, then what will honestly?😂😂😂

Okay, that’s it for today😊 Thanks for stickin’ by me through another year and hope you have a fantastic weekend!

xo Jordan

DFD Babe Feature: Danielle DeBernardo

We’re back this week with another DFD Babe Feature!!!

Dancing for Donuts | DFD Babe Feature: Danielle DeBernardo

This week I want to share with you all my friend Danielle!! I originally met Danielle on Instagram (shocker, I know) when the universe had us land on each other’s profiles since we have a ridiculous amount in common. I don’t even know how long I’ve known her, and though we haven’t actually met yet in person, I know this girl is my long lost soul sista.

An inspiration to women on their fitness and health journeys, Danielle brings such light and positivity to everything she shares, and everyone she speaks to. She’ll tell you in just a second, but she actually used to be in corporate finance…until she made the leap into entrepreneurship and fitness coaching. How COOL is that?! It always amazes me when people successfully jump from one career to another because it means they had that much drive, confidence, and fearlessness.

Okay let’s just get into it!

Dancing for Donuts | DFD Babe Feature: Danielle DeBernardo

Tell us a little bit about the #FitGirlGang and your life as a Fitness Coach! When did you decide to become one and why?

Health and fitness has ALWAYS been a part of my life as a competitive soccer player. I was fortunate enough to have played soccer in college – and once I graduated and that came to an end I felt a huge void. That feeling was even more amplified when I entered the “real world” and got my first big girl job in Corporate Finance (#nerdalert). I was extremely fortunate for that opportunity but I wasn’t genuinely passionate about the work. I knew in my heart I was always meant for something different, something more…

After 5 years of climbing the corporate ladder I heard about this coaching opportunity and it piqued my interest. I was a little skeptical and wasn’t quite sure what exactly it entailed but I knew I had nothing to lose. The pain of remaining the same was far greater than the unknown at that point. So I jumped in! I had no idea what I was doing, I never was very active on social media BUT I knew that if I was able to just inspire 1 person by sharing my journey it was worth it. And here I am today 2.5 years later with *hundreds* of women from across the country in our virtual #FitGirlGang. I’ve not only made an impact on the lives of others, but I’ve made some lifelong friends and am forever grateful I took a chance on myself. I’ve never been so passionate and EXCITED about the work that I do and the impact that I am able to make. And not to ruin the surprise, but I’m no longer in Corporate Finance 😉 HOLLA!!

Dancing for Donuts | DFD Babe Feature: Danielle DeBernardo

What inspired you to start working on your own business?

My Dad. He has built his own real estate business from the ground up because he was willing to work hard and figure things out. And because he didn’t want our family to simply live an average life. A lot of people thought he was crazy in the beginning.. but at the end of the day nothing worth having comes easy. My Dad was also my soccer coach growing up and I am forever grateful for everything I’ve learned through his coaching and the example he set as a father , leader and entrepreneur.  

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever been given in regards to being an entrepreneur?

The only way to fail is to quit.

What are three personality traits you think are key to being a successful business owner?

You need *passion* for your work, *self-belief*, and you need to be willing to *work your booty off* 🙂

Dancing for Donuts | DFD Babe Feature: Danielle DeBernardo

What’s your favorite part of running a business?

Knowing that my success is directly reflected by the work that I put in. I am in control.

And what’s your least favorite part?

The fact that it can be SO HARD for to unplug and “turn yourself off”… When you love what you do and are genuinely passionate about your work, there’s a tendency to always want to be “on”. Over time (in fact more recently), I’ve learned the importance of giving yourself that time to recharge and unplug. You can’t pour from an empty cup my friends… so focus on filling yours first and then bless the world with that overflow <3

What advice can you give to others looking to start pursuing their passions?

Start now. Make decisions every day that make you happy. Don’t necessarily wait for the perfect opportunity or perfect moment because that doesn’t exist. YOU create that by making those small decisions that compound over time.

Do you have any de-stressing techniques or self-care routines you can share?

IT’S HARD!! Hot yoga is one of my favorites, baths, face masks, candles (always lit), WINE and popcorn.

Dancing for Donuts | DFD Babe Feature: Danielle DeBernardo

Where do you find inspiration?

I’ve always been very self-motivated and driven by success but to be honest sometimes it’s really hard. It’s impossible to always feel SO INSPIRED every single day. We’re all human and there are some really great days and some challenging days as well. Whenever I find myself having a harder day, I shift my focus to everything I am grateful for and how when I take a step back I am beyond blessed. When you focus on the good, the good gets better. And to be honest – workouts and wine always help too 😉

What are you excited for in the second half of 2018 and beyond?

Ahh where do I start?? I think what excites me most about the future is knowing that this is just the beginning. I know there are so many other amazing women out there that I’ll eventually cross paths with – and whether I inspire them or they inspire me… it’s never ending. And that’s beautiful.

So I don’t know about you, but after reading that I’m about ready to grab life by the balls and make some serious moves. Shoutout to Danielle for being such an incredible boss babe and inspiration for women in the health/fitness community!! If you’d like, you can learn more about Danielle on her website here and follow along on her Instagram at @danielledebernardo

If there’s anyone you’d like to see featured here, please let me know in the comments! I’m always looking for more role models and love sharing stories of women who’ve accomplished their dreams.

Have a great rest of your week friends!

xo Jordan

DFD Babe Feature: Teresa Pulver

Welcome back to another DFD Babe Feature where I introduce you to one of the many incredible women I know and love!

Dancing for Donuts | DFD Babe Feature: Teresa Pulver of Journey On, Lovely

This week I’m bringing to you my good friend Teresa Pulver of Journey On, Lovely – a travel and fashion lifestyle brand that uses biodegradable fabrics and gives back to orphan homes around the world. I had the pleasure of modeling for her first collection, Lovely in Bali, where I first fell in love with her gorgeous designs, but knowing just how incredible she is as a woman, friend and business owner makes me love it even more.

I’ve been so, so inspired by her drive, passion and persistence and I know you will be, too! Keep reading if you want to hear how she took the leap to make it happen 🙂

Tell us a little bit about Journey On, Lovely! When did you start it and why?

I started Journey On, Lovely in October of 2017 while living in Bali with my boyfriend. After many years of being an Executive Assistant and Project Manager in Los Angeles, I felt I was no longer growing in these roles and I had lost all passion for my work. After hitting 30, I realized, I could either live my life playing it safe and never being truly fulfilled by my work or I could take a risk and pursue work that made me excited to get up in the morning. And I see now, it’s these struggles, challenges, and leaps in life that build character. The entrepreneur path is very creative and uncertain, and that’s where I thrive!

My boyfriend and I decided to take the leap and launch companies together and it was during our time in Bali when I felt a door open for me. The culture is vibrant, colorful and so community focused, and the fashion and art is very inspiring. I serendipitously met a very kind, loving and hardworking Indonesian family who happened to manufacture clothing. I decided to work together with them on creating, Journey On Lovely’s first collection, Lovely In Bali.

Because it was very important for me to start a company that had a deeper meaning, I asked around to see what social and environmental issue I could help alleviate with this new business idea. After meeting an Australian swimwear designer whose proceeds all went back to a non-profit called the Bali Street Mums, I realized I needed to use this new fashion line as a medium to help raise funds to support this incredible non-profit and similar ones around the world. I quickly called up one of my best friends who lives in LA, and is half Balinese, and she absolutely loved the idea. She jumped on board immediately and together we launched Journey On, Lovely.

Dancing for Donuts | DFD Babe Feature: Teresa Pulver of Journey On, Lovely

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever been given in regards to being an entrepreneur?

I LOVE podcasts and Ted Talks. I source a lot of my advice from them, especially one of my favorite podcasts called “How I Built This” by Guy Ross. After months of listening to many successful entrepreneurs tell their story of how they launched their businesses, I noticed a pattern: many did not have an MBA, an Ivy League education, or even experience in their field. They refused to be limited by other’s expectations of them and how they should live their life and instead, took risks and leaps in life that were authentic to them. Many of these entrepreneurs had no idea what they were doing, but they simply figured it out along the way.

So the best piece of advice I’ve ever been given is that starting a business is 20% talent, and 80% psychological. If you believe you can, and you break through your mental limitations, you can achieve anything. If you believe you can and you have enough hunger, passion and grit to make it happen, you can achieve any of your wildest dreams. 

What are three personality traits you think are key to being a successful business owner?

The hunger to learn, a passion for serving others and creating value, and grit.

Dancing for Donuts | DFD Babe Feature: Teresa Pulver of Journey On, Lovely

What’s your favorite part of running a business?

I am engaged in my work, every single day. I used to disconnect from my work while doing accounting for others, managing their careers and projects. Now that I’m managing my own projects, doing my own accounting, and creating beautiful art people get to wear, I am the most engaged I’ve ever been in my work.

And what’s your least favorite part?

The long hours

What advice can you give to others looking to start pursuing their passions?

Start now. You will never be fully “ready” for most things in life. You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great. Also, if you haven’t already, start surrounding yourself with the best team/friends/network possible. Going after your dreams can be a very vulnerable place for some. It’s important to surround yourself with supportive, encouraging, positive and uplifting people. Sometimes this can make the biggest difference.

How do you prioritize time for yourself when you’re super busy with your business? Do you have any de-stressing techniques or self-care routines you can share?

Yes, it’s all about how I start and end my day. I wake up very early, and start my day with a 10min meditation with the Headspace app, my favorite. I then go on a run or do some yoga. While eating a nutritious breakfast (typically a power smoothie made with greens and fruit), I go through emails, texts, etc. I make sure to take care of myself and my needs first before I get pulled in many directions throughout the work day. I find this gives me the strength to show up and give my best self to others and my projects. Throughout the day I take little breaks to do a quick yoga stretch or take a quick walk to run errands (sitting at a desk all day is very difficult and painful for my body). And I make sure to carve out time for my loved ones. I end the work day usually around 9-10pm. To turn my mind off from work, I meditate 10min before going to sleep.

What are you excited for in the second half of 2018 and beyond?

To continue to build, create, and serve others.

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So there ya have it, one of the MOST gorgeous, talented, kind women I know just kickin’ a$$ and takin’ names. Don’t forget to check out her beautiful designs at Journey On, Lovely and if you’d like 10% off, just use the code ‘jordanlovely10’ at checkout!

You can also find Teresa on Instagram here.

Thanks for reading and have a great rest of your week!!!

xo Jordan

DFD Babe Feature: Kayla Kleinman

Welcome to the first of many DFD Babe Features!

Dancing for Donuts | DFD Babe Feature: Kayla Kleinman of Kayla in the City

In case you missed it, last week I mentioned that I’ll be featuring women who creating incredible brands and businesses on a bi-weekly basis. These women inspire me on a daily basis to chase my dreams, and I know they’ll inspire you, too! Whether you’re on a journey to find your passion, hoping to start your own business or even just love supporting other women who are simply killing it out there, then this series is for you😊

We’re kicking it off this week with my friend Kayla, founder of Kayla in the City, the healthy living and fitness blog, as well as the podcast WELL-Rounded (which I was featured on in Episode 7!). I’ve actually known Kayla since we were in the single digits as we grew up in the same hometown in NY, but we also went on to go to NYU together. Kayla is kind of an all-around super woman in my eyes – she’s a certified yoga teacher, runs her blog, podcast and a side business called Holistic Happening where she hosts wellness events in NYC, and is about to graduate grad school for social media marketing.  Keep reading if you want to hear more about how she does it all!

Dancing for Donuts | DFD Babe Feature: Kayla Kleinman of Kayla in the City

Tell us a little bit about Kayla in the City & WELL-Rounded! When did you start it and why?

Oh man…I created my blog, Kayla in the City, a little over 6 years ago as a way for me to share my own fitness journey, and also honestly because I felt super alone in this journey. At the time I was a senior in college studying theater and hadn’t found many “like-minded” people yet. I didn’t have anyone to discuss trendy group fitness classes with or what the best dairy-free milk option was. Granted it was 2011 and almond milk wasn’t even available at Starbucks yet…

One day, senior year of college, I stumbled upon a few fitness blogs. People who wrote reviews of workout classes in NYC, achieving fitness goals, and yes, recipes with almond milk. Suddenly I didn’t feel so alone, I wasn’t the only fitness loving weirdo out there! Around this time my college friends started catching on to the fact that I was pretty into this wellness thang. They’d ask me questions about the workouts I was doing and how I managed to wake up before class to hit-up a yoga class. So I figured why not start a blog about it — I love writing and sharing my opinion on anything and everything.

I then launched my podcast, WELL-rounded in the beginning of 2018. I like to think of it as an extension of Kayla in the City. I created WELL-rounded because one, I absolutely LOVE podcasts and think it’s such an awesome medium for creating content. And two, I just wanted to have interesting conversations with interesting people about wellness, entrepreneurship, and mindfulness.

What inspired you to start working on your own business, whether full-time or as a side hustle?

I definitely didn’t create Kayla in the City with the intention to make money. And I don’t think anyone should start blogging for that reason alone. I created it because I felt like I had something to say about fitness, healthy living and wellness and if I didn’t say it on the internet I’d basically burst. Once I started spending more and more time, energy and money on Kayla in the City I was ready to start monetizing and doing partnerships.

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever been given in regards to being an entrepreneur?

It honestly applies in life but a friend of mine who is also an amazing health coach, Michelle Cady, always says “if it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no.” Every day I’m making decisions about partnerships, opportunities and events to attend. It can be overwhelming to figure out what to say yes to. I’ve been really challenging myself to take a second to really think of it’s a “hell yes” before I say yes to anything.

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What are three personality traits you think are key to being a successful business owner?

Creativity, even if your medium is not in the creative field. Grit. Motivation.

What’s your favorite part of running a business?

So many things. I’m so freaking grateful for the amazing people I’ve connected with thanks to Kayla in the City. I’ve legit met some of my closest friends on Instagram. I also love that I get to be creative and choose my own adventure when it comes to Kayla in the City. I write about what I’m passionate about and follow my own rules for building my brand.

And what’s your least favorite part?

Answering emails. It’s never ending.

What advice can you give to others looking to start pursuing their passions?

Just do it. Start a blog. A podcast. A business. Be loud about what you’re passionate about. You’d be surprised how many opportunities start coming your way.

How do you prioritize time for yourself when you’re super busy with your business? Do you have any de-stressing techniques or self-care routines you can share?

This is something I’m always working on, I definitely struggle with taking care of myself when I have a lot going on. I’m a huge fans of walks and try to take an hour long walk every day. It helps me decompress, it’s where I get my best ideas, and it keeps my energy level up when I feel myself crashing. Since I’m home for lunch most days, I use that time to step away from my computer and veg out for a bit. I also read every night before I go to bed – usually novels because I love me some self-help, but lately I just want to get lost in another world, not my own brain, ha.

Where do you find inspiration?

In whatever content I’m consuming. Lately that’s a lot of podcasts.

I’m a huge fans of walks and try to take an hour long walk every day. It helps me decompress, it’s where I get my best ideas, and it keeps my energy level up when I feel myself crashing. (1)

If you’d like, you follow Kayla’s blog at kaylainthecity.com

And her Instagram at @kaylakleinman

Thanks for reading!!😃

xo Jordan

Friday Finds.

Hi friends!

Dancing for Donuts | Friday Finds.

This week absolutely flew by, didn’t it? I think that may have been because I spent half of every day reading and watching the news hoping they would find some answers about what happened in Vegas last weekend. I actually just want to say something quick here, aside from how absolutely horrifying the attack was – just one week before, I had actually been at a music festival on the same fairgrounds as the shooting, and stayed right at the Mandalay Bay, too. I’ve been extra upset about it, just because of this and how my memories on that field are so different from all of the people involved last weekend and to be honest, I feel a bit guilty about it. Like maybe I shouldn’t have had such a great time there, because only one week later it would be the sight of something so awful.

But there’s really no point in feeling that way, because what we really need to do, aside from sending love and light to all of the victims and their families, is to understand what needs to happen to prevent this in the future. We have had far too many incidences like this to continue on the path this country has been. And on a more granular level, can we all just be a bit kinder to one another? I think that may do some good, as well.

Okay, on a lighter note – here’s what I’ve been reading (other than CNN), and I hope you have a weekend filled with people you love. Hug them a little tighter, okay?

How to Help the Victims of the Vegas Shooting – Call your reps.

Whatever You Fancy Fruit Crumble – Swear I’m making these this weekend with mixed fruit omg.

8 Snacks to Stop Buying and Start Making – Healthier, cheaper, and probably more fun.

Nourishing Fall Power Salad – Now THIS is a salad I could get on board with daily.

3-Ingredient Lunches Perfect for Lazy Days – Wait, how have I not thought of these?!

The Best Things About Being in Your Late 20’s – SO true, I love this!!

The One Baking Ingredient You Should Never Splurge On – Since holiday baking is coming up and I need to save my ca$h for gifts, y’know?

xo Jordan

Why I Don’t Own a Scale (and Never Plan to in the Future)

Can I tell you something? I’m like, soooooo beyond exhausted of thinking about weight.

Dancing for Donuts | Why I Don't Own a Scale [and Never Plan to in the Future]

And to be frank, I’m tired of hearing other people talk about it, too. Now that’s not to say I don’t support you in your weight loss journey because I absolutely 100% do, but I think what’s really been bothering me is the focus on our actual “weight,” as in the number on the scale, versus how we treat our bodies. I’m no nutritionist or trainer (y’all know that), but I’d like to think of myself as a health-conscious human. I try my hardest to eat whole, un-processed foods as much as possible, I move my body and strengthen my muscles on a regular basis, and I take care of it when it needs to rest. I’m by no means perfect, and I pay waaaaay too much attention to how my stomach looks in the mirror, but I can tell you that I’m not a slave to the scale. I feel incredibly lucky that my main hobby growing up (and then my job) was a sport, and that body positivity was something promoted by those around me.

Dancing for Donuts | Why I Don't Own a Scale [and Never Plan to in the Future]

I know a lot of women, or people in general, have an obsession with weight, as do I most of the time, but I think we all need to shift gears a little bit. That number on the scale (which also varies depending on which one you’re using so which one is even accurate anyway?!) is exactly that: just a number. It fluctuates when you drink a lot of water, or when you don’t and you’re dehydrated, when you’ve had a few indulgent days on vacation, or a few extra salads when you’re feeling motivated, when you’re on a juice cleanse, or when you go off of it.

I guess what I mean is, what’s the point of even looking at it if it’s going to change depending on whether you weigh yourself first thing in the morning or 14 hours later before bed? Not to mention, muscle weighs more than fat, so that number can be even MORE misleading than you thought. And please keep that in mind – sometimes when that number goes up, it just means you look like a bada$$ and your guns are busting out of your t-shirt because you’ve been lifting and are therefore burning more calories on the reg without even trying (because that’s how muscle works). It may NOT mean that you gained a bunch of fat because you had 3 squares of chocolate last night.

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I know this message isn’t for everyone because yes, it is unhealthy to weigh over a certain amount, and I get that, but the majority of people who become slaves to the scale in their bathroom or gym shouldn’t actually need to weigh themselves, right? Like if you just busted your butt for 45 minutes lifting weights or pounding on the treadmill, you’re kind of kicking a$$. And if you’re going to go home afterwards and have a balanced snack or meal with some greens and protein and healthy fat, you’re kicking even more a$$.

Dancing for Donuts | Why I Don't Own a Scale [and Never Plan to in the Future]

So here’s what I’m saying, I just feel like we’ve all gotten a tad obsessive with the weight talk, and I’m fully including myself in that. I think what we should be focusing on instead is what we’re putting inside of our bodies and how we’re maintaining optimal health. Because a certain number of pounds does not equal a level of “health.” We feel guilty when we come back from a vacation that may have involved a touch too much ice cream and fewer workouts than usual, when the reality of it is, if we come back from that trip, fuel our bodies with some extra goodness and focus on getting enough nutrients, it shouldn’t matter what the scale says.

If you know you’re treating your body as best as you possibly can, and that includes balancing it with a happy, full life too, then you’re kind of killing the game. Screw the scale. Stop looking at the numbers and look at your fridge instead. What’s in there? Hopefully some greens, and fruit, a few sources of protein, your favorite foods, and maybe some sort of milk for coffee (if you’re me…). And did you move your body today? If you didn’t, can you squeeze in a 20 minute walk around the block right now? Focus on those things. I promise, you’ll feel better.

xo Jordan

Friday Finds.

Happy Friday, y’all!

Dancing for Donuts | Friday Finds.

I’m enjoying my last day on the east coast with my family before heading out to a wedding this weekend in Minnesota, but wanted to make sure I got a Friday Finds post up since it’s been a couple of weeks! Here’s what’s been catching my eye:

How to Save Money While Traveling – Literally on board with all. of. these.

8 Little Habits for Saving Big at the Grocery Store – These are so freakin’ helpful, especially #6!!

Trader Joe’s Meal Hacks for Busy Nights – That loaded butternut squash soup is calling my name for fall!

Reese Witherspoon’s Glamour Cover Interview (on Women + Ambition) – I don’t care who you are, you NEED to read this. It is everything.

No-Bake Greek Yogurt Espresso Vanilla Cheesecake – Oh it is ON.

How to Plan Your Week Like a Go-Getter – Because as much as I’d like to think of myself as one, some weeks I just can’t get my sh*t together…anyone else?

To all my friends in FL – stay safe in Hurricane Irma’s path! Sending love & good vibes your way.

xo Jordan

28 Lessons in 28 Years.

Hi friends!

Dancing for Donuts | 28 Lessons in 28 Years.

So tomorrow is my birthday and I wanted to share some of the wisdom I’ve learned in the past 28 years of my life. I jotted these lessons down partly for me (because practicing gratitude instantly makes me feel a bit better when I’m not feeling myself) and partly for you in hopes that maybe you’ll learn something, too!

1. You’re never going to be this young or free ever again so you might as well do some crazy sh*t. Heck, why not move across the country to a city where you know maybe just one person and follow your freakin’ dreams 😉

2. Moving far away may make relationships harder, but the ones who are worth it will reciprocate the effort. It’s a two way street, y’all.

3. It really does get better. Not everyday is going to be rainbows and unicorns, but know when to wallow and when to rise up. The lows make the highs even better 🙂

4. The best investment you can make is in yourself. Attend the school/conference/event that will teach you more about what you’re passionate about and if you need to take a loan out, you’ll make it work and pay it back. Knowledge isn’t free!

5. The money will come. Sometimes (most of the time) you have to pay your dues. Take these moments as learning experiences and don’t worry about the paycheck yet. That being said, no when to say enough is enough. You have value and deserve to be paid for your contributions and hard work.

6. You’ll never regret a trip you took. Travel while you can, and while you have minimal responsibilities (aka no kids!).

7.. Family is #1. Hands down, always. And if you’re not close with yours, find friends that become your family instead.

8. There’s nothing better than having good friends and a support system in life so treat relationships like they’re solid gold.

9. That being said, say goodbye to relationships that don’t serve you, lift you up, or make you smile. Not every moment can be perfect, but the highs should by far outweigh the lows.

10. Kindness. Is. Everything. I promise that nothing will get you farther in life than being a kind person.

11. Do favors. People notice and karma exists.

12. Others may be lucky, but working hard for what you want is far more important in the long run when it comes to gratitude and character.

13. Everything happens for a reason (and I so, so strongly believe that!). The job you didn’t get, the breakup you had to endure, the hardships. They teach you things so keep an eye out for the lesson and remember it in the future.

14. Treat your body like the friggin’ temple it is. Stretch, move, fuel it with goodness and love it for all it’s capable of.

15. Save when you can. You’ll be glad when you have money for a “rainy day.”

16. Women are so capable of becoming anything they want to be. Be independent, be strong and be a role model. Girls need more of those in this world (and I’m thankful I had mine!)

17. Your home should be your oasis, the place you come home to after a long and crazy day and instantly makes you feel comfortable.

18. The small things are often the big things. Don’t take small moments for granted.

19. Celebrate every single victory, no matter how small. You are accomplishing things and growing every single day and nothing is more motivating than stopping to recognize that.

20. You and your needs come first every single time. Give yourself time to rest and learn when to say no (and when to say yes!).

21. Treat yourself! What’s the point of living if you can’t indulge in the things you love?

22. If it doesn’t make you happy then let it go – the job, the boyfriend, the whatever-it-is that’s holding you back. You deserve happiness and life’s too short to hold on to things that make you miserable or bring you down.

23. Don’t wait for things to come to you. Work hard, manifest what you want in life, and ask for it when you can.

24. Stop talking sh*t about people. I’m so guilty of this I’ll be honest, but when I think about it, what’s the point?! It doesn’t help me in anyway, or them. If people want to be crappy, that’s their prerogative. Avoid them at all costs, but don’t waste your breath or brain capacity thinking about them.

25. Confidence will get you far. It probably won’t come instantly, and it’s definitely easier said than done, but find the things you love about yourself and focus on those. People will instantly be drawn to you and you’ll find yourself rocking interviews, dates, friendships, and being happier overall.

26. Don’t let people pressure you into doing, saying or thinking anything you don’t want to. If they’re going to judge you for not drinking, smoking, going somewhere, or doing something, it’s their problem not yours.

27. You have to have to HAVE to follow your dreams and take whatever path you think it is that you’re meant to take. If life doesn’t turn out how you planned so be it, you’ll pivot and find another path, but if you don’t try you’ll never know.

28. Don’t forget to laugh. Having a sense of humor (& humility) makes the tough stuff so much easier to handle and life a bit easier to get through 🙂

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xo Jordan

Friday Finds.

Man have I been all over the place this week.

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I seriously need this mug ^

I’m in the middle of move, while partially staying with my cousin in West Hollywood, working on a ton of blog content for you guys, getting ready to celebrate my birthday, and go on vacation. And let me tell you, that vacation could not come at a better time! I seriously think reading blogs is one of my favorite ways to de-stress, though. It kind of always has been 🙂 Here’s what I’ve been reading this week…

Good Digestion Smoothie – I seriously need to start adding herbs like mint and basil to my smoothies. Do y’all ever do that?!

Trail Mix Coconut Butter Cups – These are so beautiful!!! I’ve never made coconut butter before, but I’ve been seeing so many recipes with it…need to get on that stat!

5 Make-Ahead Salad Hacks – You know me, all about those meal-prepped lunches. So much cheaper and healthier than what you can buy on a lunch break!

8 Ways to Help After Charlottesville – Because hearts are breaking all across this country and it is unacceptable. Let’s educate ourselves and make a change.

4 Ways to Make Your Natural Deodorant Work Better – I can attest to these since I successfully switched over to natural deodorant! S/o to Schmidt’s Lavender & Sage!

Hope you find time to unwind and hit the re-set button this weekend!!!

xo Jordan

Saying Yes to the Big Things.

I don’t think many of you know this, but for about 5 straight years of my life, I worked almost every single weekend night.

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It actually kind of started during my senior year of college when I’d decided to move to Los Angeles. I knew I needed to save money for my move, so I got a job hostessing on Friday nights at a restaurant in Manhattan. When I moved here to LA, my main sources of income were nannying and hostessing, as well, so that I would have time to audition during weekdays (and the funds to actually keep a roof over my head/food in my fridge). Between those two jobs, I worked every single Friday and Saturday night, and most Sunday nights as well, which meant saying no to having a life like most people in their early 20’s. Part of that, I’ll be honest, was due to me being a little too anal about saving money, but in my defense I wanted to save for rainy days or when gigs were few and far between…

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That’s not the point of this post, though. The point is to tell you that the other day I was listening to one of my new favorite podcasts The Goal Digger and she was talking about how to graciously say no to things, people, events, etc. that don’t serve you. She also said that while you can’t say yes to everything (for your own mind and heart’s sake) you should absolutely say yes to the big things. What I took away from that is actually something I’ve been thinking about, and trying to do, for quite some time now.

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I’ve spent more money on travel, food and drinks, adventures, and gas money to visit my friends in the past year than I ever have before. I’m probably making slightly more money as well, but the real reason is that I’m tired of not living my life. Our time on this planet is waaaaay to short to not try the restaurant we’ve been dying to eat at, visit the countries on our travel bucket lists, to let important relationships fade (or not create new ones), to miss out on events or trips we know will be a blast. For the first time in my life, I’m finally loosening up the purse strings, (as my mother would say) and enjoying life.

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You will never regret a trip you took, or a weekend you spent creating memories with new friends in a new city, of that I can promise you. I went to my first multi-day music festival last weekend and it’s safe to say that my tired feet and slightly unsettled stomach from the fried food were absolutely worth it. And I don’t just mean the money, I mean the time and energy, too. I’m still exhausted 2 days later, but I’m going to have the memories of bobbing up and down to the Killers with my boyfriend, grabbing the best tacos I’ve ever eaten at midnight, and watching a new band (that I now love!) from backstage, for as long as my memory holds up.

Dancing for Donuts | Saying Yes to the Big Things.

So for all of you babes on a budget out there, and those of you who may not be fully living because you’re afraid of the calories in a cocktail, and even for those of you who feel like you don’t look as good in your outfit as you wanted to, find something better to spend your time thinking about. Because none of those things are worth missing out on your life.

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xo Jordan