My Focus Word(s) for 2018

Peace out 2017, hellooooooo 2018?

Dancing for Donuts | My Focus Word(s) for 2018

Happy New Year, my sweet friends!! I’m a couple of days late, but getting back into the swing of things after break hasn’t been easy, as I’m sure you all know! I so badly wish I could be transported back to a week ago when I was still on vacation with my family on the east coast, but you know what? It’s okay because I’m actually looking forward to getting my sh*t together this month. I’ve just signed up for ClassPass and am super excited to start a new fitness plan, have started to work on some really exciting business opportunities, and will be finishing up decorating our apartment. Lots of good stuff in the works!!

As you probably all could’ve guessed, I’m not really one of those people that waits until January 1st to make resolutions. I tend to make them all year round, writing out my goals and plans monthly, weekly and even daily most of the time, so when I thought about how I wanted to approach 2018, I felt like writing down a list of new year’s resolutions wasn’t going to work for me. Instead, I thought I’d choose a focus word or two, something easy to remember, and truly aligned with my goals for this year. So, without further ado, here they are!?

Dancing for Donuts | My Focus Word(s) for 2018

Love

It took me a long time to decide if this one was too cheesy or not, but the more I thought about it, the more I knew that it was the perfect fit for this year. First of all, I want to make sure that I’m showing my love for those around me on a regular basis. I live across the country from my family and many of my friends, and don’t even get to see the ones in my city nearly enough either. But if there’s one thing I’ve learned, a little distance can’t come between a strong friendship and nothing is more important than that.

I know a little goes a long way – a letter, phone call, or even text will do if that’s all I can manage. I want to take this year to strengthen the relationships I have, and also take time to cultivate new ones. At the end of the day, it’s who you surround yourself with, and I think it’s so important to express love and gratitude for those people I’m lucky enough to have in my life. I want to lift them up, motivate them, encourage them, and make sure I’m there when they need me.

I also want to take this year to love myself. I’m not necessarily a self-conscious person, but I’m certainly not the most confident, either. Hearing “no” a gazillion times in your professional life can really take a toll on ya? (helloooo entertainment industry, I’m lookin’ at you). But seriously, in this era of social media, it’s pretty much the easiest thing in the world to find someone else who looks like they live a way better, more perfect life than you. So how can we not feel inadequate sometimes?

I know that these comparison traps exist, but I want to let them go in 2018. Like BAI, see ya never because if looking at it and thinking about it doesn’t bring me joy or inspire me, I want it GONE. I want to let go of self-doubt, lack of self-esteem, and the things that don’t serve me. I want to take the time to treat myself, even if it’s to something as silly as that iced latté I’ve been craving for a week, or a haircut that’ll make me feel like a million bucks. It’s not about money, but really just taking the time to do what makes me happy because that is the start of self-love. Of living a life I’m proud of, and being the best I can be so I can help others do the same.

Dancing for Donuts | My Focus Word(s) for 2018

Dream

Yep, another cheesy one (because what can I say, I love all things Pinterest and inspirational quotes). I literally could not decide between this word and the one above because this one is so freakin’ important to me, too. I’ve said this before, but about 8 years ago, I decided to move across the country to a place where I knew no one and had no job, no nothing, because what I did have was the dream of becoming a professional dancer. I had this crazy drive in me to just say f*ck it, and drop everything (in a well-thought out, very calculated manner of course?) because I wanted to make it happen. And guess what? I did.

In the last couple of years, I’ve found myself doing so many wonderful things like meeting new people and traveling and starting a new career, which is great, don’t get me wrong, but I feel like I haven’t been doing much daydreaming lately. Does that make sense? Like I’ve been super focused on getting through the day to day and just being a girl with a life and resumé I’m proud of and honestly just watching a crap ton of YouTube videos when I have down time because I LOVE them. But I miss the dreaming part of life. The part where you have these insane ideas and imagine yourself just GOING FOR IT.

I’ve been asking myself lately, if I could do anything right now, like absolutely anything, what would it be? Would I go to Bali? Would I write a book? Would I go for a walk in my neighborhood and find a new restaurant? Who knows! But the possibilities are kind of endless. And I don’t have to stop my life or do something drastic to think this way, I just need to be present and find what fills my cup.

If I had to describe myself in one word, I’d probably say that I’m a hustler. I kid you not, I could be working a job that pays me a six figure salary and I’m 99% sure that I will still say yes to babysitting on a Saturday night because why not? I figure I get to hang out with some super cute kiddos and then get a boat load of work done once they’re asleep. I have a looooot I want to accomplish this year, and sitting on my tucas isn’t going to get me there. I want to take this year to focus on what I really want out of this life, and then go grab it by the ball$. I want to have crazy daydreams and then make them reality.

Dancing for Donuts | Focus Word(s) for 2018

So yeah. Those are my focus words and I’m SO excited to wake up every morning and choose to love, to dream. I hope I keep doing those things well after 2018, but hey, it’s a start?

But enough about me – what about you?! Did you make any resolutions this year or choose a focus word? I’d love to hear because chances are, I’ll be adding more to my list as time goes on!

xo Jordan

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5 Comments

  1. January 3, 2018 / 4:48 pm

    I love that one of your resolutions is to dream! I’m a lot like you and don’t wait until January to make resolutions (although I make them in January too), and at some point mid-year, I realized that I was not dreaming big at all! When I was in law school, most of my time was spent just scraping by and trying to make it through each day. A year out of school, I realized that I had totally forgotten how to dream big and get excited. It’s made daily life a lot more fun 🙂

    • dancing for donuts
      Author
      January 3, 2018 / 11:39 pm

      YES! yes, exactly!!!! i know that feeling – well, both of those feelings 🙂 i’m glad you have your dreaming back, i’m looking forward to getting mine back, too! <3

  2. Mile High Dreamers
    January 6, 2018 / 5:19 am

    Bahhhh I LOVE both of these focus words! I have the exact same things on my mind for 2018. Ben is so great about reaching out to people he loves just to touch base and let them know they’re important. It’s something I need to do more of. And self love is something I could ALWAYS work on. Definitely my own harshest critic!
    And dreaming… man I feel like Ben and I are so face first in this these days and I makes me so happy! Believing that we can shape our own lives the way we want them to be is so flippin’ freeing.
    Here’s to 2018 lady, it’s going to be GREAT!

    Susie | http://milehighdreamers.com

    • dancing for donuts
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      January 9, 2018 / 10:58 pm

      I need to be more like Ben!!!! And as for the dreaming thing, I’m so with you – now is the time when we can craft a life we love and technology provides so much flexibility! I definitely want to make sure I’m taking advantage of it in life and my career…that’s what I’ve been dreaming about these days 🙂

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